It isn't all attitude nor perspective. Sometimes it's within you, chemically. Get help. That's all I can say. It's in these times that we have to set aside our pride and seek help; more importantly, accept help. Get therapy, get on meds if indicated, but by all means get help. Because the **** that's happened to you is nearly impossible to deal with and work through alone. And look into your state's assistance programs for help with utilities and other expenses. Don't be proud now, bro. There's a time for that, and a time for accepting a helping hand. This is the latter.
Nabo, trust me on this one - you haven't lost your friends, you just haven't talked to them for a while. When you're ready they'll be there for you.
Well said. What Marcellus said about pride in "Pulp Fiction" is damn good advice for anyone in our boat.
Did you really TRY or were you hoping that the meds and therapy would magically fix your problems? Anlgp, as I noted earlier in this thread, I have seen firsthand the cycles and as an observer (on some days victim of it, until you make it your mission to feel better and follow the steps to improve your life, the same cycle will continue to repeat itself. Your situation is not easy, nor could I begin to image how much you have suffered given what you have told us. But you are young and have a long life ahead of you. Now is the time to make changes because in another decade or so it will be too late. Listen to Nabo and speak to someone about getting help.
John, you are truly one in a million. I'm battling it also right now. I've gotten some great support off of here, and in the Christian thread. I do all in my power to stay positive, but sometimes it just slips away before I know it. But, I'm going to beat it with God's help and my friends.
there is nothing inherently intelligent about being a depressive we should all strive for being happy and balanced. sometimes we have to adjust our perspective and expectations. behaviorists will say that our actions can control our thoughts. other times professional help is needed and there should be no embarrassment from that i have gone through my own bouts. its not easy and its always you to work on, but there is hope
Debby, Sometimes you just have to accept that the black dog is part of who you are and stop fighting it and accept it. If you you have repeated bouts fighting it can take too much energy, some days you just have to accept that today is a bad day and I'll just ride it out and know that you will be better tomorrow because of the cyclical nature of it. Fighting battles that you end up losing makes you feel like a failure and reinforces the downward spiral.
