I can't believe I'm posting this here but I'm pissed off and frustrated, so here we go. The question is simple- do I kick my kid out or not? I have an 18 year old with borderline personality disorder. To give you the low-down, people with that condition are highly manipulative, susceptible to depression, extreme mood swings, etc. Sort of like bi-bolar in a way, but yet always trying to be in control and often destroying the relationships closest to them with self-destructive behavior. I tried to be objective there with a medical-like diagnosis- my personal definition would be a tornado spawned by Satan. That's what it feels like. Our kid lies to us continually, threatens us if we ask her to do anything (run away, suicide, hurting herself, etc), and makes it impossible to have a normal household. She sleeps all day, never lifts a finger to help around the house, disappears in the afternoon/night, then lies about the whole thing and flips the blame back on us for calling her a liar. In some ways, she's delusional like a spoiled elitist kid would be- only we're strictly hard working middle class. Meanwhile, doctors say that borderline personality is not treated with drugs- it's 100% behavioral therapy and learning to deal with the swing of emotions. Our kid will put in zero work (mentally or physically) to help herself and because she's so volatile, her only friends are other seriously messed up people. She gets around them and they bring her way down....before long she ends up in a mental hospital for about a week. They give her drugs to stabilize her and send her on her way.....this is a cycle we've done every 2-3 months for the past 3 years. The therapists around her are horrible as well- she completely plays them like the movie "Good Will Hunting". She'll talk for months and convince the therapists that she's completely normal....which she can be if she tries. The few that are actually effective, she refuses to see because she can't manipulate them. So trying to get help is pointless. I had a heart attack about 9 months ago and almost died at 43, partially due to all the stress and constantly trying to deal with my kid. My wife has been on long-term leave from work on and off for almost a year now since our kid will do everything wrong and then wake my wife up at 3 AM to talk....this only happens on nights she's supposed to work early the next morning though. If my wife gets fired, we have no insurance...and I'm 9 months out from heart surgery. I should be in the gym getting back in shape but 100% of my time is working from home, calming down my wife or dealing with our daughter's destructive behavior. Friends? Fun? Hobbies? Normal work schedule? Forget about it- I barely get to leave the house. These days, you folks are essentially my only friends I might talk to more than once a week. My wife and I gave up on those types of relationships years ago because of our kid. If we plan anything, the phone rings within an hour of some emergency we have to drop everything for. I write for a living and half the time, I'll be up to 5AM waiting on my kid to show up and finally getting to work in a quiet house. Every single day is filled with BS drama. I have a 16 year old as well that is honestly neglected completely- luckily she's an awesome, super balanced kid. She may get 5% of our attention at most and it's completely unfair. Whenever my 18 year old is out of the house, it is almost unbelievable how normal everything feels instantly....it's like stepping into an alien world or something compared to what we're used to. In other words, I'm killing myself and neglecting the rest of my family for a kid that doesn't give a crap about us or anything other than living in the moment. She acts like she hates us and tells people I'm the devil because I push hard to do what every doctor has told her to do...yet she does the exact opposite. If we try to talk to her about anything, it's like starting WW III in our living room- she throws tantrums like a 5 year old would until she gets her way. For example, she threatened to become a prostitute two nights ago if I didn't give her $50 for a tattoo...she wanted it right that second and there was no discussion around the topic without her becoming irate. When I said no, her response was that we've always hated her and go out of our way to destroy her- there's absolutely no logic or common sense involved. That's how she is- demands on the spot and huge mood swings/consequences if we don't comply. Hell, she's tried suicide twice now because we told her to clean her room. I always say no because we're just enabling her if we agree, but my wife gives in way too much (because that's what mom's do). My wife is the real victim here because she's basically living like a slave to this kid's demands 24/7...she's too kind and loving to say no most of the time. And our kid knows that so she mentally abuses the hell out of my wife- the kid is way smarter and good at being evil (I tested at a 164 to 172 IQ as an adult and the 16 year old tested a 162 in 8th grade. Not sure where the 18 year old would score but I'd guess it's at least borderline genius as well. Mom has an average IQ so she's kinda screwed in that regard). On most levels, it's destroyed our marriage because not even a single minute of our lives can be about us anymore. There's always some life-changing drama just waiting to unfold at a moment's notice. I'm just so ridiculously stuck and I want to scream. Anyway, sorry for the rant but it felt good...so I guess I'm not sorry after all. The kid has been kicked out a few times already for short periods of time (once to grandmas house for a month, once for 4 days to a random guy's house). We want to "save her" but we have absolutely no way to do that without her giving it some effort, and she definitely won't even consider that. So there is no "magic answer" here- the kid has to grow up and stop being such a spoiled little ***** towards us. That's why I'm asking just one simple question- do I finally toss her out or not?