Ok, so my girlfriend and her mom flew out of state and have been gone for about a week and a half. She is scheduled to get back on Monday night around 10pm. She planned to have her dad pick them up at the airport, and drop her off at our house on the way home. We live 15 minutes from the airport. Her parents live 45 minutes from the airport. Last night she texts me and asks if I can pick them up instead. I told her the Dolphins are playing on Monday night football and it's a really huge game. She couldn't believe I wasn't going to come to pick them up. My brother suggested I drop off her car at the airport in advance, so she can just drive home. This works fine because she also said her mom was going to spend the night and so she would be closer to her doctors office for her appointment in the morning. So I told her I would drop off her car. That wasn't good enough. She said she didn't want to drive after traveling all day. It's a 5 mile drive! She played the whole, "I can't believe you would choose football over being there to welcome your girlfriend home" routine. She knows how much I love the dolphins, and she knows I never want to miss a game unless it's an emergency. We've been through all of this during the first year we were dating. Now she's playing these games and trying to make me choose between football and her. She even went so far as to say she can't be with someone who puts football before her. I think this is ridiculous, considering the alternative is that she drive her self home in her own car, not a cab. Now she's going to make her dad drive to pick them up instead of having me drop her car off. What am I supposed to do? Thoughts?
She's testing you as you probably already know. She's trying to gauge where she is on the priority list. If you had some kind of serious obligation she would have no problem driving herself home. Sounds like she may dump you if you don't go pick her up. So figure out whether you'd rather have her or miss half an hour or so of the Monday night game.
For one I would scratch her off the "possibly wife" list, you don't need that the rest of your life, a good woman knows never come between a man and his football team. I'm serious.
This seems a little obvious so I was wondering if maybe he doesn't have DVR. Are there still people who don't have DVR?
Tell her you'll do it, report yourself as a missing person with the police, just don't show up or answer your calls, enjoy the game..
Honestly, [Edited] You're screwed. I say you already went as far as telling her you won't pick her up because of football so just let the consequences come.
Hate to break it to you, but if you haven't been married at least 7 years or more that **** won't fly. If you like this girl get used to making sacrifices, this is a pretty minor one compared to what lies down the road. You make these sacrifices now to reap the rewards later. Sent from my EVO using Tapatalk 2
She said if her flight arrived while I was at work she wouldn't have asked me to pick her up. I told her I would rather miss work than this game. And she know I love my job. She said that's ridiculous and that's when the conversation ended.
Maybe I can get one on short notice. I don't have one because almost every show I watch can been seen on demand.
If you really love her then you shouldn't even be asking this question. Also be thankful you a) have a partner and b) you live in the right time zone. The game is on 2am to 5am here and I have clients to see from 9am, so I'll be missing it live too.
Football just really isn't THAT important. If a woman is making a man miss games just to play games with him or to try to 'wear the pants' in the relationship that's one thing. It sounds like she has a somewhat legitimate gripe returning from a week and a half out of town trip.
Look at the half-full. Watch first half, put DVR on, pick her up, have sex thinking about second half, have a cigar, watch second half. Everyone thinks the dolphins will loose a close one. At least you get the sex in the middle.
Since she has no interest in football this sentiment is mind boggling to her. If you really care for her making this sacrifice will score you a ton of points. I'd highly recommend the DVR to help you avoid problems like this in the future. I spend every Sunday afternoon in September and October at my daughter's fall season softball games. I can tell you the DVR is a life saver.
I'm in a somewhat similar situation, as some know my first son will be here any minute...my GF thinks their is a strong possibility that when she goes in for her weekly checkup this MONDAY, that they will decide to just send her to the hospital so this little future Phin-Fan can enter this world. Obviously I won't miss the birth of my first son for MNF, but it is a worrisome thought that I may have to miss such a great game. But to your situation?? If your 15 min from the airport I suggest pausing the game and pick it back up when you get home (assuming you have that option) tell all your friends not to text you until the next day, stay off this site etc. GL
My advice: Tell her you will pick her up and take flowers. Be happy and don't make her feel guilty for making you miss the game. She will appreciate the sacrifice (even though it's completely unnecessary) and will feel bad about making you miss the game and will make it up to you later. Someday you might want something that she thinks is ridiculous but she will do for you because of this. That's what being in a relationship is. If you think it's not worth it, break up. If she wants this, but never does anything like this for you in return, definitely break up.
Tell her next Monday night works better for you. Lol But really It's her call if she knows you and understands you wait all year for maybe a 16 game season and your team is 3-0 for the first time since the ice age, offering her car to be ready should be fine. My better half says she's being selfish and unreasonable.
Why not just have them take a cab home and you pay for the cab when they get there, easy solution for everyone. Problem is, the whole "who's more important, football or me" thing is still lingering in the air. If a cab is possible and she still demands that you go to the airport and therefore miss part of the game, it seems that a power play is afoot- good luck with that one, resentment will linger on both sides. Not a good sign when women do that imo, demanding an unnecessary sacrifice, a pound of flesh, to prove your affection and her importance in your life.
I completely understand wanting to catch the game, I have been married 25 plus years and my wife knows not to bother me or book events on Sundays. That being said, I will say she is more important in my life than football. Dude its only the fourth game of the year,many more games are to come. If my wife needed me to pick her up at the airport then I will either dvr the game, listen in on the radio so you can have the best of both of the worlds. I think you are making a really bad decision as Miami Dolphins is a sports team and your GF is suppose to be the love of your life. GO PHINS!!!
You're "supposed" to pick her up, obviously My thoughts are it's a 5 mile walk. I just walked that yesterday. It gave me time to think and clear my head about life. I'd tell her to suck it up and walk it, but then again I do believe I'm single for a reason... edit: I really wouldn't tell someone that, but I'd sure as hell think it.
she said she would never take a cab. I don't think this has anything to do with how she gets home. It's about me being there to greet her
You can catch the game at the airport. If I were you I'd go to the airport at halftime and finish it up there while you wait.
We are talking about an airport pickup not a social engagement say a wedding of one of her friends, being married or in a serious relationships there are going to be times you will have to miss games and there is nothing you can really do about it but grin and bear it, but THIS is not one of those times, if she is going to make her significant other miss something that is dearly important to him over something so trivial that a cab couldn't fix then he's getting himself in a nasty fix the rest of his life if he chooses to marry her eventually, because the tone will be set that her needs no matter how little or unimportant in reality are more important than his needs no matter how big or important to him.
Its a shame this isn't happening during a day game, because you could send a limo to pick them up and take them to a spa, get pampered and bring them home to you whose now the greatest guy EVER, and you would have been able to watch the game. Win-win. Since that isn't the case, then there's 2 questions: Q: Has she always known how important the games are to you?.....and...Do you give the things she's passionate about the same respect you want her to give? A: Yes & Yes....drop the car off. Yes & No....pick her up and start being a better boyfriend No & Yes...pick her up and explain to her how important the games are to you, so she'll understand in the future. No & No...pick her up cause you've been a ****ty boyfriend so far. Regardless, get a DVR you jack ***.
Among other things, he can easily pick them up and then catch the last part of the game. This has nothing to do with the utility of picking her up, it has everything to do with who is who in the relationship. For myself, my yes means yes, my no means no.
I actually have a very SIMPLE solution. One that will let you meet both of your obligations at the same time. You know what plane she is coming in on right? What airport it leaves from... the flight #, etc etc... Very simple... half hour to an hour before the plane is about to leave, go to an anonymous phone, a public phone.. make sure there are no cameras... you might want to wear a disguise... call in a threat to the plane. Now.. at first glance this might seem extreme. But, the plane will be delayed for at least a few hours. yes, it's bad karma and all that... but these are two things important to you. And before anyone says that the financial cost to the general public in securing the plane makes him liable for it, all of those costs are already paid for. The airport security is already in place. It's not like you are starting a real fire.... it's just a threat.
He's backed himself into "bargain" position and she is not willing to meet him in the middle. If he's into her, then pick her up, there will be other games, this is the sort of ish that men remember for a looonnnnggg time and women do not "get" why. Basically it is more about doing what one wants to do instead of what one is being imposed on to do.
A football game is "dearly important?" Agree to disagree on that one. They're fun for sure but they're not even really important at all in the grand scheme of things. If they were a couple of 20 years or something then maybe she has no problem just taking a taxi. I would imagine they're still at a fairly early stage and this is her trying to gauge where she sits on the totem pole. Right or wrong that's what it is. If he wants to dump her [or rather get dumped] to watch a game that's his choice but a good woman is more important than football. I don't know either of them and couldn't tell you if this is some power play with the intent of her dominating him in the relationship. That clearly seems to be what you see there.
Agreed. It's game playing pure and simple. I have yet to ever be with anyone who would get in the way of football unless it was a legitimate issue. I would have scored brownie points though and sent a limo to pick her up. If it's truly the fact she didn't want to drive home....that should not only solve the issue but score points without missing action. Depending on the price of course. It's not bad up here. I live just over a good hour from Toronto's airport and you can get a limo to here for $91 + tip. I imagine a 15 minute drive would be half that.
If he does this now he'll have more leverage in future situations when he needs things. This isn't even missing a whole game or anything either. My advice to someone who always wants to do what they want is to never get into a relationship with anybody.
For him it obviously is, what is important to him is irrelevant, what is relevant is it is important as I'm sure there will be things that are very important to her that would make most men roll the eyes. Its calling giving and taking with no questions asked.
Right, he gives now he can take something later. You just seem to assume that his girlfriend is some kind of nag who is going to take advantage of him at every turn if he caves without really having any information to make that judgment. It may be true or not but we have no way of knowing just from this one situation and without knowing either of them personally.