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Discussion in 'Outreach Forum' started by Kanye West, Oct 27, 2010.

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  1. Nappy Roots

    Nappy Roots Well-Known Member

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    I definitly understand what your going through, when you think you love this girl and something like that happens. It's very very tough to deal with, but what you also have to think about, is how she feels towards you. A text like that shows a lot. She would never subject you or have feelings for anyone else if she was truly in love with you or/and cared for you.

    That's a very immature thing to do, and don't go one believeing shes the only one for you, because she's not. Your better off moving on after this. How could you trust her moving forward? She doesn't respect you in the least or else she never would of done such a thing, you should never have to ASK a gf to not talk to a former bf
     
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  2. Kanye West

    Kanye West 'Parcells' Guy

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    im so hurt I really dont know what to do or where to go.
     
  3. Ohiophinphan

    Ohiophinphan Chaplain Staff Member Luxury Box

    I have nearly 40 years on you so my "advice and counsel" may be hopelessly outdated.

    What others have said in this thread regarding respect coming before or with love is absolutely correct. It has to be there.

    I would add that openess and forgiveness need to be there as well.

    When I was 19 I fell in love with a girl (she was 21) who had dated someone else a couple of years earlier. He was scum. He was abusive and violent, had caused her father to pull a gun and order him out of the house, etc. He had left town one step ahead of the police.

    He returned, with a different girl and while girl number two was standing there asked my girl to let him back into her life. I stood aside confident that my good treatment would be enough and instead she steps into his arms and kisses him! I was devastated and walked away. Two days later she came to me and apologized over and over again. She told me she would never again take my love for granted and treat me disrespectfully. I considered showing her the door and did ask for a day to think it over. She agreed but begged me to forgive her. The next day I told her we would act as if this never happened and move forward. Until she died from cancer six years ago she never once disrespected me again. Forgiveness worked!

    I don't know where your situation is. I do know that I don't want always to be judged by the stupidest thing I have ever done. Maybe your girl doesn't either.

    I am not sure I would worry about what you have to say. It seems the ball is in her court to speak. If her words are not of committment and respect then she has answered your questions for you. If she is willing to cut things off and be faithful to you in word and action then you have to decide if she is trustworthy.

    I wish you the best!
     
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  4. Kanye West

    Kanye West 'Parcells' Guy

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    Thank you sir.
     
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  5. Two Tacos

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    Just make sure you aren't telling her that she cannot see him. Tell her that you don't want to be with somebody that doesn't put you first. Ask her if she is that person. Let her know that if she isn’t it sucks, but that’s what you need. She should be honest with you and herself though. It's a small but important difference. Don’t tell her do something and don’t try to control her. It will just lead to resentment. Also, if you don't trust her, move on. No trust, no chance.
     
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  6. slickj101

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    Let her go if she really can't choose between you two. Doesn't really sound like she's worth your time or effort.






    Thanks,
    Kevin
     
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  7. slickj101

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    Just the tip.
     
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  8. Two Tacos

    Two Tacos Season Ticket Holder Club Member

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    That's what she said?
     
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  9. slickj101

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    Seriously though, that **** always sucks and I'd say it happens to a lot of people.

    For one, if you tell her she can't talk to him it'll only bite you in the ***. You'll either drive her right to him or "telling her she can't talk to people" will prob be brought up by her in a later argument.

    I'd just tell her to make her choice and if it's something she really struggles with then it more than likely means you should just get out now or keep it casual.
     
  10. BlameItOnTheHenne

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  11. Dol-Fan Dupree

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    You can't save her. You cannot save anyone. People can only save themselves. You can help someone of course, however that is only if they want to change.

    Most times when you try to save someone you will be pulled down with them and they will blame you for their problems.
     
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  12. Dol-Fan Dupree

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    That is a good point. it is not about her and what she does. It is about you and who you want to be with. Do you want to be with a person who pulls that kind of stuff? If you do, then stay with her. If you do not, move on.
     
  13. unluckyluciano

    unluckyluciano For My Hero JetsSuck

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    Like when you used to make me addicted to porno.
     
  14. Dol-Fan Dupree

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    You do not need anyone to get addicted to porno. Porno is awesome.
     
  15. HolliFinFan

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    Hi Ronnie. Heartbreak is brutal. You've gotten lots of advice in this thread. You have an inner voice and strength that speaks to your situation, and very few situations are parallel. Trust your instincts, as they will get better as you have more life experiences, in general. I have been in similar situations from both sides, but ultimately, with maturity most times a relationship will gel if the commitment is there. You have lots of living to do, with or without this woman. Male or female, only you can decide when it's time to cut your losses. All the best. :hi5:
     
  16. Ohiophinphan

    Ohiophinphan Chaplain Staff Member Luxury Box

    So what happened my young friend?
     
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  17. Big E

    Big E Plus sized porn star

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    I knew you were catholic.....




    lol I'm sorry chaplain I couldnt help myself.


    I too am interested in an update Steve.
     
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  18. Ohiophinphan

    Ohiophinphan Chaplain Staff Member Luxury Box

    Lutheran, that's Catholic lite!
     
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  19. Frumundah Finnatic

    Frumundah Finnatic U Mad Miami?

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    Let me guess, she probably thinks she can "change" him right?

    So its half the guilt and none of the fun?:wink2:
     
  20. Ohiophinphan

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    and our diet is better on Fridays and throughout Lent! :up:
     
  21. Stringer Bell

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    Treat her the way she wants to be treated.
     
  22. RickyBobby

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    trust and truth

    need them both and cant have one without the other.
     
  23. slickj101

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    :lol:

    If that's open to his interpretation then it could be interesting.
     
  24. Samphin

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    How is there four pages on this subject? I mean, really...?!?!?!
     
  25. Big E

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    Can I have your autograph?
     
  26. Kanye West

    Kanye West 'Parcells' Guy

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    I told her it was me or him. I told her that I didn't want to end things, but I was not going to have a bidding war over her especially with some d-bag ex boyfriend. I told her what I told her in the begging of the relationship if you think you will be happier with someone else don't stay in this relationship. I told her that I loved her and to do what was best for her.

    She was crying the whole time and she chose me right away she didn't have to think about it. We are still together and things are great I'm happy and she is too.

    Thanks everybody for you input.
     
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  27. Ohiophinphan

    Ohiophinphan Chaplain Staff Member Luxury Box

    Great news. You gave her respect and an oppurtunity to make amends. She chose to respect you. I hope and pray things continue well for you both!
     
  28. Frumundah Finnatic

    Frumundah Finnatic U Mad Miami?

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    Thats great to hear
     
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  29. Jaj

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    So the guy above me still has some sort of love for his chick. What's better she coming back desperate to get ****ed by me or acting so disgusted with her that a fine as **** chick can't get my dick. I'm basically asking which one of those two ****s with her head better?
     
  30. Nappy Roots

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    To deny any female the dick is an awesome feeling. and a big FU. because to females, sex is our weakness. they can get it when they want, where they want....not so fast ladies. Deny it. Ive done it to my past girlfriend. its great.
     
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  31. MikeHoncho

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    :knucks:
    all around
     
  32. Jaj

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    Didn't want to make another thread for this one:

    - Co-worker/boss
    - I hit on her first (I just do that)
    - Forgot about her
    - Now she's showing all the signs physically grabbing, kicking plus a couple other cues
    - Mentions a boyfriend in a passing conversation to another coworker (knows I can hear it, I'm ten feet away)

    What an annoying one huh? This story has been seen quite a few times by all of us. The weird part is she controls my workload and what the big boss hears. The heck do you do with this one?
     
  33. F@CK her
     
  34. ToddsPhins

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    TBH, threaten to tell everyone you stuck it in her can and still had room for 2 fingers. That should shut her up.
     
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  35. Laces Out

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    Don't **** where you eat. Best rule to live by. You do anything with your boss and things go sour it will make your life hell. Just my .02
     
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  36. Jaj

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    You were right. And she's still trying to reach me a year later. What a mess.
     
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  37. PSG

    PSG Clear Eyes. Full Hearts.

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    Word.
    /End thread.
     
  38. slickj101

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    She sounds like a predator posing as a house-pet.
     
  39. Boik14

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    "I got 99 problems but this chick aint 1"

    I would take Todds and Nappy's advice, and combine them. Or just nail it til her head spins like the exorcist, gives you a raise, and you live a nice cushy life while searching for a new job.
     
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  40. Laces Out

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    Line up a new job and post some pics of her for the board to enjoy. They don't even have to be NSFW.....
     

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