Girl trouble

"RonnieBrownTown wrote:

So things have been going good with me and my girl friend for 6 months now...but last night she tells me she might be getting feelings back for the boy she use to go out with before me.......she said I love you but I might be getting feelings back for Kevin. ( that is her ex boyfriends name)

Kevin is her ex boy firend and her and kevin have been texting back and forth and I didnt think it was really that big of a deal until last night. Kevin treated Olivia(my girlfriends name) like sh!t. He would metaly abuse her and call her names like slut and whore and make rumors about her when they broke up. He has treated her like sh!it for awhile now. But all the sudden he has been texting her and saying he will be better and that they should get back together. Now I really dont care because I had thought up until last night that there was not chance of her leaving me and she has told him that she is already going out with somebody. Now I am not trying to say I am the best boyfriend ever but even before we were going out I have always been there for her. I give her my best everyday, I have never said anything mean to her, I think I have treated her really well . I am there for her whenever she needs me to be and I will drop everything and anything I am doing to see her or to do help her out like you are suppose to do . I told her last night I wasbt going to be in a bidding war over her love espcially when I treat her so well and he treated her like sh!t. After we hung up last night she sent me some long text message say basically she doesnt know why she said that she might be getting feelings back for kevin because it is not true. She loves me and cant live with out me. I love this girl to death and would do anything for her.

I dont know what I should do? Should I just believe her and trust the way she says she feels about me really is the way she feels about me? I have been so good to her why would she evn think about having feeling for that pile of sh!t she use to date? I dont know help me please.

IF YOU AREMY FACEBOOK FRIEND DO NOT TALK ABOUT THIS TO ME ON FACEBOOK OR POST ANYTHING ABOUT THIS ON MY WALL.

Some women really are drawn to your prototypical a-hole. The worse you treat them (within reason) the more they are attracted. The saying the nice guy finishes last comes to mind, but it isn't always true.

If I were you I would make her understand exactly how you feel about her, but also that if she goes back to the ex, that you will not wait around for her and be her safety net - you have more dignity than that. If you want to throw in a little attitude and say, this is what you have, and if this is what you are going to give up for that, you are stupid, but emphasize that your decision is absolute.

At the end of the day you are only 17 man. This may be your high school sweetheart that you share your 50th anniversary with, but likely not. Sorry to be the bearer of that truth, but you will move on and have other great but tough relationships, like we all have.

Walk away. Trust me and don't put up with this nonsense. You're gonna have to be willing to lose her. The more you beg and plead and reason with her, the more you'll repel her into this idiot's arms. Give her an ultimatum.

Also trust me when I tell you this: A girl must respect you before she can ever truly love you.

Why would you think your girlfriend talking to her ex was OK #1?

"Tone_E wrote:

Some women really are drawn to your prototypical a-hole. The worse you treat them (within reason) the more they are attracted. The saying the nice guy finishes last comes to mind, but it isn't always true.

If I were you I would make her understand exactly how you feel about her, but also that if she goes back to the ex, that you will not wait around for her and be her safety net - you have more dignity than that. If you want to throw in a little attitude and say, this is what you have, and if this is what you are going to give up for that, you are stupid, but emphasize that your decision is absolute.

At the end of the day you are only 17 man. This may be your high school sweetheart that you share your 50th anniversary with, but likely not. Sorry to be the bearer of that truth, but you will move on and have other great but tough relationships, like we all have.

Im 19 just havent updated my age in a couple years lol.

dont have time now but ill post my thoughts on your facebook wall soon.........................

"RonnieBrownTown wrote:

Im 19 just havent updated my age in a couple years lol.

"RonnieBrownTown wrote:

So things have been going good with me and my girl friend for 6 months now...but last night she tells me she might be getting feelings back for the boy she use to go out with before me.......she said I love you but I might be getting feelings back for Kevin. ( that is her ex boyfriends name)

Kevin is her ex boy firend and her and kevin have been texting back and forth and I didnt think it was really that big of a deal until last night. Kevin treated Olivia(my girlfriends name) like sh!t. He would metaly abuse her and call her names like slut and whore and make rumors about her when they broke up. He has treated her like sh!it for awhile now. But all the sudden he has been texting her and saying he will be better and that they should get back together. Now I really dont care because I had thought up until last night that there was not chance of her leaving me and she has told him that she is already going out with somebody. Now I am not trying to say I am the best boyfriend ever but even before we were going out I have always been there for her. I give her my best everyday, I have never said anything mean to her, I think I have treated her really well . I am there for her whenever she needs me to be and I will drop everything and anything I am doing to see her or to do help her out like you are suppose to do . I told her last night I wasbt going to be in a bidding war over her love espcially when I treat her so well and he treated her like sh!t. After we hung up last night she sent me some long text message say basically she doesnt know why she said that she might be getting feelings back for kevin because it is not true. She loves me and cant live with out me. I love this girl to death and would do anything for her.

I dont know what I should do? Should I just believe her and trust the way she says she feels about me really is the way she feels about me? I have been so good to her why would she evn think about having feeling for that pile of sh!t she use to date? I dont know help me please.

IF YOU AREMY FACEBOOK FRIEND DO NOT TALK ABOUT THIS TO ME ON FACEBOOK OR POST ANYTHING ABOUT THIS ON MY WALL.

If you could trust her, you would. Since you obviously can't, then you must end the relationship.

Any relationship, (love, friend, business, etc.) must have trust or it won't work. No matter how happy you are with her, the doubt will slowly dissolve what you have. Your suspicions will grow louder and louder every time you can't get a hold of her or don't know where she is or are not around her. Every look on her face or eye roll or moment she spends lost in thought, you'll interpret as her thinking about him.

You're young, you have time to find the right one, until then play the field and have a blast, it is what youth is for.

i got married at 20. was a father at 21. please listen to me. *shakes your shoulders and looks deep into your soul*

**** random bitches and stay single for the rest of your ****ing life!!!!

"Nappy Roots wrote:

Why would you think your girlfriend talking to her ex was OK #1?

Im not going to tell her to her who she can talk to and who she cant talk to her im not her mom. But maybe I should start telling her not to talk to him.

Leave her now. You're young. Chalk this up as a learning experience.

"RonnieBrownTown wrote:

Im not going to tell her to her who she can talk to and who she cant talk to her im not her mom. But maybe I should start telling her not to talk to him.

thats the problem, you shouldnt have to tell her that. she shouldnt do it out of respect for you, her current boyfriend. If she doesnt respect you enough to do that for you, even with you treating her so well....how can you see it getting any better?

Wait a woman who you treated right, wants to go back to a guy who hasn't??? Say it ain't so!!
Yeah man people are stupid. Shes either stupid or stupidly young, either way, its time to move on. Learn that trusting your gf to not hook up with her ex is a good idea. But the first time she responded to him with anything other then I don't think my bf would appreciate us talking that **** was over.

"SICK wrote:

thats the problem, you shouldnt have to tell her that. she shouldnt do it out of respect for you, her current boyfriend. If she doesnt respect you enough to do that for you, even with you treating her so well....how can you see it getting any better?

"unluckyluciano wrote:

Wait a woman who you treated right, wants to go back to a guy who hasn't??? Say it ain't so!!
Yeah man people are stupid. Shes either stupid or stupidly young, either way, its time to move on. Learn that trusting your gf to not hook up with her ex is a good idea. But the first time she responded to him with anything other then I don't think my bf would appreciate us talking that **** was over.

I mean should I ask her to stop talking to him or should i just end it? Should I give her the choice either him or me?

"RonnieBrownTown wrote:

I mean should I ask her to stop talking to him or should i just end it? Should I give her the choice either him or me?

its hard to gather, cause you are emotionally tied to this chick, and we are not. but imo the best thing is to go your seperate ways imo.

"SICK wrote:

its hard to gather, cause you are emotionally tied to this chick, and we are not. but imo the best thing is to go your seperate ways imo.

Im going to be honest with you guys. This is the girl I am helping out with her dad. If you guys remember the thread I had a few months ago it was talking about her and the abuse she has to deal with.

http://forums.thephins.com/showthread.php?t=49322

basically I have been through hell with this girl. I have been through a lot with her I mean it has been bigger stuff then what we are going through now. Im not going to lie I love her. So I want to give her every chance I can but at the same point when is it time to call it quites. When does she run out of chances? When do I walk away?

"RonnieBrownTown wrote:

Im going to be honest with you guys. This is the girl I am helping out with her dad. If you guys remember the thread I had a few months ago it was talking about her and the abuse she has to deal with.

http://forums.thephins.com/showthread.php?t=49322

basically I have been through hell with this girl. I have been through a lot with her I mean it has been bigger stuff then what we are going through now. Im not going to lie I love her. So I want to give her every chance I can but at the same point when is it time to call it quites. When does she run out of chances? When do I walk away?

You have given her every chance, and she replies with I might want to date my abusive ex-boyfriend.

You've two chance for happiness:

- Stay with her IF she gets help, since she's falling into the pattern of abusive parent = going for abusive relationship. And ride it out until change happens or you realize it won't.

- Leave her now, since she is on the border of breaking the biggest trust two people in a relationship can have.

My heart tells me to give her another chance. My mind is telling me there are plenty of other girls out there. But I dont know if I want any other girls. I see her tonight.....what should I say.

"RonnieBrownTown wrote:

My heart tells me to give her another chance. My mind is telling me there are plenty of other girls out there. But I dont know if I want any other girls. I see her tonight.....what should I say.

Then don't see her tonight and tell her you got some **** to think about.

"RonnieBrownTown wrote:

Im going to be honest with you guys. This is the girl I am helping out with her dad. If you guys remember the thread I had a few months ago it was talking about her and the abuse she has to deal with.

http://forums.thephins.com/showthread.php?t=49322

basically I have been through hell with this girl. I have been through a lot with her I mean it has been bigger stuff then what we are going through now. Im not going to lie I love her. So I want to give her every chance I can but at the same point when is it time to call it quites. When does she run out of chances? When do I walk away?

Bro...all I can tell you is been there, done that, still have the scars.

You've been through hell with her, you've helped her, you've loved her....yet she still has feelings for an asshat.

Cut your losses and run like your dick was on fire.

Yeah man don't worry about finding another girl, you will. Don't worry about moving on because you will eventually. It will suck and be hard, but you can do it. Any girl worth it wouldn't have to make a decision if they want you or not. She has mental problems it sounds like and if you want to talk to her about it and say hey I think you need counseling then do so, but after that you are done. You can't save everyone mang and you are to young to try.

"RonnieBrownTown wrote:

My heart tells me to give her another chance. My mind is telling me there are plenty of other girls out there. But I dont know if I want any other girls. I see her tonight.....what should I say.

I don't mean for this to sound like a Hallmark moment or a douche commercial, or even a fortune cookie, but when your heart and mind are on the same page, is when its right.

As far as what to tell her, well the truth is the right call. Ask yourself what she'd need to do put your mind at ease. Based on what you answer:

1. You can ask her to do those things, and she does, you ride off into the sunset together.

2. You ask her to do those things, and she doesn't, you ride off into the sunset getting blown by some strange.

3. You realize you can't ask her because what you need is either impossible or too much to ask for, in which case the relationship is done, you ride off into the sunset getting blown by some strange.

Understand this is hard, I don't mean to imply it isn't. What I hope you get from this is that it though may difficult, it is not complicated.

"Finascious D wrote:

I don't mean for this to sound like a Hallmark moment or a douche commercial, or even a fortune cookie, but when your heart and mind are on the same page, is when its right.
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"unluckyluciano wrote:

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I think we all knew the truth would come out eventually. Now that you've said it, I believe I owe Pagan a dollar.

"Finascious D wrote:

I think we all knew the truth would come out eventually. Now that you've said it, I believe I owe Pagan a dollar.

just pay the tip on your twos date tonight.