Hey guys, I can use your brain power if you don't mind helping me out. I was adopted at birth and essentially had almost zero information until recently. All I knew was that my birth mom was in her 20's, married with a 3 year old, and had an affair. Her husband told her to get rid of the baby or they'd divorce so I was placed for adoption and ended up with who I call my parents. I'll refer to them as real mom/dad and the other set as birth mom/dad from here on out. Recently I took a DNA test and discovered a cousin that was a 5% match to me, which is pretty close in terms of DNA. He also had a son that was a 3.7% match to me, and I was related to them both on my mother's side. The elder cousin is in his late 70's/early 80's though and for him to be a 2nd cousin, that means my mom is one generation older than him (my mom would be his aunt). But that would make my mom over 100 and I'm 44, so the math fails there. Mr real mom got a brief glance of my birth mom at the hospital and she's pretty sure she was younger than her- likely mid to late 20's (that would make her around 65-70 today). So I'm thinking the 5% match person is a 1st cousin once removed (or even twice removed), which makes his aunt or uncle's child my mom (or his aunt's grandchild if it's 2nd removed). Right? Here's the math- a perfect match to a 1st cousin once removed is 6%, and a perfect match to a 2nd cousin is 2.75%. I'm a 5.0% match so he's definitely more than a 2nd cousin but the family tree gets confusing when you're plotting it in the 3rd person. Two days ago another wrinkle emerged, the system found my half brother. He's 38 and a very bad person who's been in jail most of his adult life. He also has at least 1 full brother (also my half-brother) so I'm researching there to see if he'd be a better person to try and connect with. But here's the kicker- that half-brother is also a 3rd cousin to the first person I reached out to- who I think is my 1st cousin once removed. That means my birth mother and birth father are fairly closely related somehow since they're both related to my half brother (one's his dad....the other is maybe a 2nd cousin? A niece?) I think I'm so caught up in this personally that it's getting hard to think through, so please feel free to tell me if I'm missing something here. The perfect match for a half-brother is 25% (I'm 22.8) so he has to be my half brother (or grandson/grandfather that's 6 years younger than me...but we are talking about some inbreeding here somewhere so it's not impossible). The goal here is to try and figure out who that 2nd cousin/1st cousin once removed is to me and how my mom would be related to him....then I can probably get that person's son to put me in touch with someone who would know who my parents are and some of my family history. This has been an epic journey these past few weeks and I can really use some help from my internet brothers. I thought about messaging cbrad but this isn't exactly a math problem. He probably would enjoy it though so I may reach out anyway. Oh, one more thing- the DNA site (23&me) just shows names and obviously there's a lot of people out there with the same name. I am 90% sure I have the phone number and address for the father/son cousins. I messaged both their Facebook profiles (plus the criminal brother in law) but nobody has seen the message yet. The elder cousin did chat with me briefly in the 23&me chat but his responses were months apart...he's obviously not a tech person at his age. Do you think I should I just call them?