Some of you may remember a post about a father concerned that his daughter was a drug addict. Well, unfortunately that was me. As I updated in my post she was arrested and put in jail. She has since been released on five years’ probation. I have been hoping that she has grown up since she was arrested, but my wife and I are starting to see the same behavior she had while on drugs. My wife also found drug paraphernalia in her room. She claims that it was her now ex boyfriends and she just hadn’t thrown it away. I hate it that I don’t believe her and am close to reaching my limit of reaching out to her to help. I mean how many time do I allow her to hurt me before I just stop and turn away. I feel like an ******* just for thinking it, but I am truly on my last string of hope that she can be saved. A song keeps playing over and over in my head “Save me” by Shine down, if you know it then you can see why it is, if not here I am added the lyrics, it is a song about heroin addicts. I can’t get it out of my head is she screaming inside for someone to save her, and not turn their back on her, in a sense erase her. I am sick to my stomach over this. Any suggestions would be welcomed.
Well, this sounds more like a counseling issue USArmy, try hitting the various support groups for the families of those on drugs and see what they have to offer, I "think" narcanon is one of them. Otherwise be loving but be consistent.
This isn't about how much more you can put up with, it is about what is the loving response to her actions. Is it time to say, "I will no longer enable you!" ? If so, then you point her to the door and it is rehab or the street. These become her choices not yours if they are tied to her behavior. Sometimes the loving answer is "no"! Try al-anon or narc-anon. The local or perhaps county mental health folk can give you good referals as can a place of worship or frankly her probation/law enforcement folk. Best wishes!
The good pastor Ohiophinphan is one of the best at pointing those in need in the right direction. Prayers, thoughts and best wishes for a positive outcome bro.
Feel for you bro, most addicts need to hit rock bottom before they see the light and even then not all of them pay attention to it. I really wish I could give you ANY sound advice but I wouldnt "shut her out" of your life as imo that likely will make her sadder and turn to what she feels is her "release". Best wishes that your daughter can turn things around.
Im not a parent but I would imagine self destructive behavior like this is probably the worst kind to sit through since its all avoidable. I wish I had some kind of advice to give you but Ive never been through something like this so its hard to give perspective on something you have no experience with. Pastor Keith probably has more experience than most with this kind of thing. But if you need a friend always feel free to reach out to myself or any of the staff here. Keep on trying dude.
This is so horrible bro. I'm sorry you are going through this. I was married to someone with severe emotional problems and learned that you can't save someone unless they are willing to save themselves. I also learned that people that engage in self destructive and dangerous behavior normally suffer from immense pain and suffering. Sometimes that pain and suffering is a closely guarded secret that not even you or your wife know about. Is it possible she was abused sexually as a child? Any other traumas that you know of? Eating disorder? More often than not there is a root trauma that leads people down this road.. Have you looked at these possibilities and confronted them? My ex wife was a master at hiding things from her family and only after 3 years did she tell me things about her past that nobody else knew... So don't discount that possibility.. Good luck - You are in my prayers.
