Ok in ALL seriousness...I learned this about women a long time ago, and wished I had learned it earlier in life. Would have saved many nights of utter confusion...
Women hardly ever want me to "fix" anything...problems at work, problems with friends, etc...they just want men sometimes to just LISTEN!!! So with the situation as you explained it, it seems she didn't want you to fix it, but wanted to fix it herself, but with you there as say a..U Fix It Repairman's Guide. My wife's the SAME way....ALWAYS trying to fix something. Used to drive me nuts when we were first together, now...I use it as bonding time if you will.
When my wife is fixing something and she's having a hard time...but she just won't give up, I'll stand there and watch her...see what's wrong and then I start asking her questions..."did you check this?" "I wonder....what about that? Do you think that might work?" And even if she goes WAAAAAY off base on the suggestion I just planted in her mind...as long as it doesn't BREAK anything, I let her go with it.
And when she does fix soemthing...something she's never done before, I definitely make it a point to tell her what a great job she did and how proud I am of her.
Yea, I know..sucking up to the wife...but if it keeps the peace and helps make her feel good about herself, I'm more likely to get something I want in the end
Don't get upset with her. Just remember, she's person too and wanting to do things for herself also.
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