My parents go divorced when I was 5 so having to go visist my dad at his house isnt something new for me. It is what I am use to. As a young kid my dad was never really there for me. From the time my parents splite up so 5-14 he wasnt around. He was clser to his girlfriends kids then he was to me and my brother and it is ashame because he didnt really get to see my childhood. I mean I would go over some times because of the court agreement, but we would do what he wanted to do when I went over and if I didnt feel like doing what he wanted to do or his girl friend and her kids wanted to do me and my brother would be stuck at his house watching TV. He would alway break promises to us. He would always say that he was coming to my soccer and basketball games and never show, he was never there for me to talk to about father son type of stuff, I was never really able to go outside and play catch with him because he wasnt there and when he was able to he didnt seem very interested. As a young kid he would break promises to me and my brother and it drove my brother away from him and my dad and brother arent and havent been on talking terms for a little over 4 years now.
From 15-18 my Dad and me were really close he was not just my dad but also a good friend someone that I felt like I could go to no matter what. Some one I felt like I could tell anything to, we would go to Orioles games, and watch the Dolphins and Ravens up at the place I work Barebones ( he is a Ravens fan), we would just do stuff together. For the first time in my lifehe was there for me and it felt great because my mom didnt have to play the role of Dad for me.
Sense I have graduated highschool things have gotten different in my life as a whole. My mom and brother have moved down to North Carolina and I stayed up in Maryland. But basiclly my whole family is down in North Carolina my Mom, brother, sister, brother in law, nephew, and dog, so out of my immediate family my Dad is the only one up here. I do have a aunt and uncle, and cousin who I am close with up in Maryland but my Dad is the only perosn from my immediate family that is in Maryland. I chose to stay up in Maryland for a bunch of different reasons ans one was because so I could be close to my dad. Now my Dad wanted me to live with him but I decied not to because it is just to far away from the community college I go to and it is to far away from mt friends and the rest of my family that is up here. I dont think he liked me turning him down about living with him but I said it nicely and I gave him good reasoning but he was still mad at me I guess.
So the summer goes by and I am getting ready for college and everything. When my Mom and Dad got divorced my parents were suppose to split everything down the middle when it came to costs. So braces for example it was 10,000 dollars for my mom for me and my brother because my dad decied he wasnt going to pay. Now that college has come for me and my brother he is suppose to help my mom with the cost of me and my brother going to college.....and he hasnt, he is suppose to give me some spending money.....he hasnt, he is taking away things from my mom that she loves to do because she is paying for me and my brothers college (she is taking him to court) I hace tried no to get involed but he is hurting my moms wallet and the way she lives because he doesnt feel like paying fo his own songs education? He has the money, he just bought a new house and he has 3 BMW's and a boat. He is just not stepping up to the plate. I am trying to hold myself back because I dont want to get in between my dad and mom but it is getting to the point where it is ridiculous. Also latly it has seemed like if I want to see my dad I have to plan it, I have to be the one that makes all the plans and who decieds what we are going to do and when we are going to do it. If me and my Dad do something togetehr I am the one paying dor it...I dont have that much money as it is I go to college full time and work some hours but still I dont have enough money to support him and my step mom if I want to see them. If I want to see or talk to my dad I have to call him or text him. He never calls or texts me. He didnt get me a birthday gift and for my birthday dinner we went to McDonalds. If I didnt call or text my Dad I just would talk to him at all.
I dont want to see me and my dads relationship end. he already isnt talking to my brother, if me nd mt dads relationship ends in will pretty much be over I feel like. Which is ashame because he wont see me grown up, he wont be at my wedding, and he wont see his grad kids. I would bring this up my dad but he would get offended and get mad and not talk to me even if i called or texted him. I dont want to lose my dad or our relationship but I cant bring this up to him with out him getting mad. What should I do?