So today I was stocking a shelve at Publix when this decent girl said "hello friend" to me. It was kind of odd because most people don't really talk to me while I am working, but what was even odder was the fact, I wasn't looking at her when she said it. I didn't realize she was talking to me until I turned around and realized I was the only one on the aisle besides her. She was probably an 7 out of 10, but looked like she could have been from another country or just practicing her english (if she didn't know it already). So i just say "Hi" and continue to do my job. About two minutes later she comes back to where I was working with a better looking friend probably an 8 out of 10; she askes me when the stuffing is (yeah, I know lol... but I didn't think much of it at the time. Oh and at this point I realized she wasn't a foreigner or just practicing her english). So I am walking them two where the stuffing is located and as we are walking: The 7/10 girl says: "Oh, and don't you have another question? to her 8/10 friend. The 8/10 girl says: "Can we get your number?" looking at me... At this point I was thinking to myself is this real or are they just messing with me... so I just smiled and chuckled. Then I show them where the stuffing is and I go to walk away. As I am almost off the aisle the one girl screams to me "Hey we didn't even get your name, what is it?" So I told them my name and continued walking off... At that point she says really loud "Your soo sexy" to me . Well, I get back to work and they come by a few minutes later and just make some comments about me and were flirting with me. I was completely out of it though. I just was so shocked and taken back that two girls would call me sexy and ask for my number... I didn't even really talk to them because I was so out of it and still trying to find out what I should do or say or if I should given them my number or get theirs etc... just too much thinking in general that my mind was going a mile a minute and I couldn't think of what to say. So bottom line I had two girls call me sexy and ask for my number and I froze up and couldn't even think of what to say and didn't end up giving them my number. I feel like crap now I have so many stories about girls, but most of them are like this; I have opportunities and blow them or don't take advantage of them. Anyone else have similar stories or advice about what I should do if I see them again, or just girl advice in general?
The best advice i can give is grow some balls! Harsh but you gotta do what you gotta do. You will never see them again so who cares. give her your number. No risk high reward. No shame and get game. Anyway, Ludacris is getting drunk at a club. Will tell you how i go.
Advice? Speak. With words. I can see not being with it the first time. But, after 3 attempts in a row... Holy **** man, you got to get on that.
Next time this happens PM me and I will give you my number to give to them. Problem. Solved. No need to thank me, its what I do.
I'm no psychologist, but I've had similar feelings, not knowing what to say, freezing, etc. I don't know if it's the same for you, but the essential reason for my social failure in the past was that I didn't believe it possible. Growing up, I was always an outcast and the other kids always picked on me. I grew up thinking that I was defective and I really didn't like myself. That's over now and I thank G-d that I was able to persevere. I like myself and I'm okay socially. Learn to love yourself and then it will be easier for others to love you. Find something in yourself that you think is good and find something every day for which you are grateful.
Well... You do suck with woman (I don't mean that in a malicious way). At least you know this... That's a very hard thing for most men to admit to themselves. I have program that I put friends on in order to help them start being more open towards women. No joke. It has actually had so much success that friends have suggested I try and market and sell said services. It's more like a set of loose guidelines to follow in social interactions. I even sent buddies out on practice runs and things of that sort to get them ready. One of my very close friends followed the Mor's program and was able to land a beautiful Colombian girl... Then proceeded to cheat on her with a co-worker and break her heart (but that's a different story all together). When a female approaches you like those chicks did, it's natural to think they're kidding or messing with you. I would do... And I'm stunning looking (modest too). I would speak to them as if they are joking (not mean, but in a "I'll play along" kind of way). "Hi, can we have your number?" You: What are you two up to... I'll give you my number... No stalking, harassing, or other problematic female issue... Always watch your facial expressions. Keep smiling NO MATTER what. Try to avoid the cool guy or tough guy thing guys get into when approached by women. Relax, smile, and let it flow. PM me... seriously.
If they made three trips to say hi and you blew them off they either think you're not interested in them or you’re gay. If they do really like you and think you're sexy, they will make one last attempt to see you. Next time have a plan to talk to them. Tell them you were caught off guard and surprised they noticed you. Get some conversation going.
Women want us as much as we want them. Get that through your thick virginal skull. Once you have that engrained into your head you need to jump on any opportunity to make whatever a woman says into a sexual reference. Example: "Excuse me, where's the stuffing?" Possible answers: "Depends on what we're stuffing, baby" "I got a tube of it in my drawers." "I don't know, but if you want me me to search you for it, I'm game." Not: "Aisle 4, right past the breadcrumbs." She did give you a couple more opportunities. "What's your name?" "Most gals just call me: OH God! Oh God!" "Dixie, Dixie Normous." "Hugh G Rection." "I'm from Russia, Ivan Jerkinov." Not: ".....uh.....Jeff." And the sexy comment at the end, come on bro! A girl calls you sexy you gotta shoot right back at her, let her know that you are in control and ready to roll. "Damn right I am, you girls want to have a threesome?" "Well thank you, you too Miss. If I was your man you wouldn't be able to walk right." "If you think that now, wait until you two have me naked in the jacuzzi."
I don't even know where to begin. Mor had some pretty good suggestions, especially about smiling. I've used that for years. I have one question though, how old were these girls? I feel I too may be of some assistance.
i'll second or third the smiling, but it depends on the girl. i freeze often, but i overcame it with this . . . one day i was watching bad boys and i memorized mike lowry's lines. seriously . . . they do work on women. i'm not kinding, and in fact i find it kinda sad. well whatever, make sure you're ready next time with a line you've seen in practice. even if it was on two bimbos in a movie.
yeah i think most of us have blown a great chance or two. you just have to be confident really. be who you are and know what you like and what you want. and exude that confidence to (who you're interested in). i don't know where i got it but somewhere along the line (?!) I am pretty damn confident about who i am and what i want if i'm interested in someone and want to make a move. people like someone who is up front about themselves, honest and respectful. just do those things and you'll be fine. about the freezing up. it's just nervous energy. but just remember if/when they come up to you again that they came up to you. so just kinda feed off of what they're doing. about you approaching other women, i find what i said works for me. edit: ****ing hell i see the mor AKA "the player" already has this covered
man im pretty bad as well but these girls straight up asked for YOUR NUMBER!!! All the hard work for us guys was skipped and all you had to do was spit it out. oh well hopefully they liked the stuffing so much they'll come back
No-one mentioned lying yet? What's wrong with you candy asses? "Hi Ladies, I can point you to the stuffing, I think it's aisle 9, next to the the incontinence pads, but I'm not 100% sure. You see, I'm really a spy, undercover here at Publix, trying to investigate a terrorist scheme that involves making fruitcakes inedible hunks of pseudo rock. Here's my number, call me after 10:00, by then I'll be done filing my report and we can play 'stuff the turkey'."
I figured that was implied. My last girlfriend thought I did volunteer work with foreign special needs kids who were also burn victims.
It was probably 8:15 PM. No, they were not drunk lol. I would say they were either 18 or 19; Im 20, but look a little younger if that matters as well. Im really hoping Mor's system works because I am feed up with this. I feel like hell and keep thinking to myself how did I screw that up. Well, I have to work again today and if they come back I'll be ready thats for sure. I may screw up once, but I won't make the same mistake twice. If I see them tonight Im going with, "Oh, so you came back for my number?" with a smile. Thanks guys.
You're either movie star good-looking, or those girls were REALLY young - like early teens. Women don't act that way. You can assume that unless you are incredibly attractive...if you're fat, short or ugly, they were messing with you.
"Where's the bread crumbs?" You say: "Its right near the gum, I generally get a pack after I throw up, so I know the bread cozies are near there, cause I just had a doozy near the cereal a minute ago. Oh, I call bread crumbs bread cozies because they're cute. I call everything that's cute, cozies. Hey, do you like bacon? I heard bacon was good for herpes. They say you have to wrap up your genitals in it. I don't know if that's true yet, but I can tell this much, if you pull it straight from the cooler rack its really cold on your cozies. Anyway it was really great talking to you two. My mom picks me up at 7:00, would either you like to go the comic book store? You will score, guaranteed.
I would give you advice but I never have women approach me like that. To this I say, f you and your problem of attracting hot women. F all of you.
Yes they do. Ran into an old friend a while back..... And yeah, she pretty much said everything these girls said, and meant it. It was flattering but sad how messed up she had gotten. That was after she got done explaining how she just went about shoplifting stuff for her boyfriends birthday and remarking that she had worked as a hooker.
I'm mexican tall ***...................... don't you have a car to pull out of your front lawn or something.......
See thats why I kind of got hung up... I wasn't sure if they were joking or not. They were not messing with me though, they were serious. I consider myself to be an attractive guy, but I have never had a girl come on to me that hard before and it threw me off. Like I said before they were 18 or 19. Maybe HardKoreXX is right "women don't act that way, but sluts do."