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To anyone else who's lost a father....

Discussion in 'Lounge' started by Pagan, Jun 27, 2008.

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  1. Pagan

    Pagan Metal & a Mustang

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    Just feeling bummed today since it's his birthday, and listening to the song "Don't you Cry" by Kamelot.

    Figured I'd share this with anyone else whose Dad has passed. Great song, amazing lyrics, haunting vocal.

    [youtube]36QngswWs5o[/youtube]

    Happy Birthday Pop. :(
     
  2. unluckyluciano

    unluckyluciano For My Hero JetsSuck

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    sorry for your loss bro....................
     
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  3. opfinistic

    opfinistic Braaaaains!

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    :(

    Sorry bout Pops Pagan, great song, BTW, love the version in French as well.


    If memory serves Chris DeGarmo wrote this song as a tribute to his father as well. I'm sure you're farmilier with it. I always found it to be really moving.
     
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  4. Pagan

    Pagan Metal & a Mustang

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    Yea he did...but that one's not exactly a "fond memory" kinda song.
     
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  5. opfinistic

    opfinistic Braaaaains!

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    True, even though I have still have my pops, we were never too close, so it invokes a lot of emotion in me.
     
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  6. PMZQ

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    Sorry to hear of your loss Pagan.

    I lost my Dad in Oct 1999. He had suffered from multiple sclerosis for 18 years and it was not even related to that he passed away, but from a bleeding ulcer.

    He's in a better place now, in the arms of Jesus I have no doubts. His favorite thing besides the Dolphins & Hurricanes was to listen to old time Gospel quartet music. I'm sure he's still singin' "When the roll is called up yonder" :up:
     
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  7. Cosmic

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    I'm feelin' ya-bro. lost my Mom last year after losing my stepfather 3 years earlier and it still hurts every day. Her Bday last year was a very sad day for me, as was Mother's Day this year.

    People keep telling me it gets better with time, but so far I don't see it.
     
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  8. Pagan

    Pagan Metal & a Mustang

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    It doesn't bro...lost my Dad 7 years ago, and my Mom three years ago. Still feels like it did when it first happened.

    In the span from April 25th till today it's her birthday, then Mother's Day, then the anniversary of her death, then Dad's anniversary, then Father's Day, and today his birthday.

    Murderer's Row, I call it.

    Sorry for everyone else's loss also. :sad:
     
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  9. cnc66

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    Peace unto you brother Pagan. I know what you are feeling. I lost my Mom, and then two years later my Dad. It took a long time to get over, but you never really quit thinking about them. They both died before my son was born, so the greatest wish for both of them was not fulfilled while they were alive. For those of you still lucky, please don't live forever wishing you had told them you love them the last time you saw them..
     
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  10. dolphindebby

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    Sorry Pagan, my thoughts are with you.
    I've lost both my parents and one sister. It does get easier, but never better. I still want to call my mom and tell her things-then- I remember she's gone.
    So hang on.
     
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  11. PMZQ

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    Very profound and very true. You make sense bro. :wink2:
     
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  12. Celtkin

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    I lost my dad 7 years ago too then lost my mom a year and a half ago. You have my sympathy brother.
     
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  13. dolphindebby

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    You're right Marty. I loved my mom and told her often. Gave her flowers etc.
    She was my best friend. I've heard so many others talk about their moms etc. and I have a hard time understanding because my mom was so very special.
    My dad was a mental abuser, but that's a long bad story, so I'll just concentrate on mom.
    I bet she's having a ball with Jesus and the angels in heaven.
     
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  14. njfinfan

    njfinfan The First Lady

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    Pagan

    I'd love to share with you the poem from my dad's prayer card when he died in October 2006. Every time I read it I cry, but it's very beautiful. My father suffered from Alzheimer's disease. He was sick for at least six years with it and the last two were horribly painful for my family when he became, in essence, an infant again. He had a hospice worker who came to my mom's house to take care of him, because my mother absolutely refused to put him in a home. This hospice worker was amazing, carried my dad up and down the stairs, bathed him, etc. when my dad could no longer do so. My dad was a career Air Force man and was buried with all the honors, 21-gun salute, flag on his coffin, and deservedly so. When he died my parents had been married for 51 years. He was a wonderful father of 6 children and a deacon in the Catholic church. The funny thing about that is, he was raised protestant, but converted by his own choosing when he met my mom. We always joked with her that he was more Catholic than she was. I'm sending my sympathies to everyone else here who has lost a parent.

    Safely Home

    I am home in Heaven, dear ones, Oh so happy and so bright!
    There is perfect joy and beauty in this everlasting light.

    All the pain and grief is over, Every restless tossing passed
    I am now at peace forever, Safely home in heaven at last.

    Did you wonder why I so calmly, trod the valley of the shade?
    Oh, but Jesus' love illumined, every dark and fearful glade.

    And he came himself to meet me, In that way so hard to tread
    And with Jesus' arm to lean on, could I have one doubt or dread?

    Then you must not grieve so sorely, For I love you dearly still,
    Try to look beyond earth's shadows, pray to trust our Fathers' will

    There is work still waiting for you, so you must not idly stand
    Do it now, while life remaineth, you shall rest in Jesus' land.

    When that work is all completed, He will gently call you home,
    Oh the rapture of that meeting, Oh, the joy to see you come.
     
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  15. dolphindebby

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    How beautiful Mary. Your father sounds like he was quite a man.
    You know you're always in my prayers girl.
     
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  16. njfinfan

    njfinfan The First Lady

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    My dad was an amazing person Deb, thanks. And thanks for keeping me in your prayers. That never hurts! :up: You're awesome girl!
     
  17. dolphindebby

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    You are too, friend. :yes:
     
  18. Phinperor

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    I know how you feel man, lost my mother at 18 and think about her every day. Birthday's and Christmas are always the hardest. Anyways, thanks for sharing bro.
     
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  19. DrAstroZoom

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    Pagan:

    Thinking about you, brother. My dad passed away suddenly at the age of 54 in November 1994. He had a June birthday as well (June 4).

    I miss my computer golf buddy.
     
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  20. DOLPHAN1

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    lost my dad in Oct 1994 a couple of days before my birthday. although we were estranged for much of my later childhood and in to my twenties, i had the good fortune of being able to spend some time with him a few years before his passing. i was able to settle some things within myself and understand him as an adult. we developed an understanding between us that i am able to take with me to this day. i am truly thankful for that but still miss him to this day. my thoughts are with you.

    p.s. his birthday was also in June.
     
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  21. BuckeyeKing

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    Sorry to hear Pagan :(

    I can't imagine losing a parent I don't know what I'd do if one of my parents died.
     
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  22. Pagan

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    Bro....that's EXACTLY how my relationship with my Dad was. He was a sarge in the Air Force, couldn't understand why his son had long hair and wore leather.

    Even when we did develop an understanding, never said anything about my music or showed any interest in it. Then at his funeral all his co-workers came up to me and told me how he brought my CD in after we finished it and how proud he was of me. I wish he had told ME that, but that's the old-school Italian male way.

    At least I know he was though.
     
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  23. DrAstroZoom

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    Weird. Our losses were just a few days apart, it seems.

    Two questions: What's your birthday, and what was your dad's?
     
  24. texasPHINSfan

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    sorry for your loss pagan. :(

    In other news, change your avatar! it frightens me :)
     
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  25. texasPHINSfan

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    :up:

    EDIT: **** **** 5 character limit
     
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  26. DOLPHAN1

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    mine is October 10th, and his is June 26th.

    on a side note, he lived in Springfield for a few years. he was a DJ there in the early 70's.
     
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  27. calphin

    calphin deadly at 250 yards!!

    Sorry for your loss!! I can only imagine how you must be feeling! Just try to remember the good times you had with him, and live for the memories....Time heals all wounds...You will never forget him, nor should you, but you will have his legacy to share with others, and that will help to keep his memory always fresh in your mind, and forever in your heart.
     
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  28. Kanye West

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    Sorry for you loss bro
     
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    I'm very sorry to hear about your loss Pagan as well as everyone elses.
     
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  30. calphin

    calphin deadly at 250 yards!!

    Just noticed there a few people in this thread that have lost someone dear to them. To all of you, I can only tell you to cherish your memories of them, and share them often with those you hold dear.
    My wife has lost both of her parents, her dad in a tragic car wreck, he was 47, and her mom to cancer, she was 60. I've seen the pain on a daily basis that she goes through, and lots of trips to the cemeteries to leave flowers. Reading this thread, I realize how fortunate that, at 43, I still have my 66 year old mom, and my 76 year old dad.
    To each of you, I express my sincerest sympathies.
     
  31. unluckyluciano

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    i know its tough bro, but hope your tomorrow is better then your today ;) keep your head up bro.
     
  32. King Felix

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    my sister in law who i have became pretty good friends with. her dad got struck in the head today by lighting and is an coma with his eyes taped shut, and on abreathing machine..i feel so bad for her :(
     
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  33. BuckeyeKing

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    **** man that horrible.
     

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